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Welcome to http://www.DivorcedDadsOnline.com! My goal is to help enlighten, encourage, support and motivate other men who are going through a divorce, with or without children in the equation. That’s why this blog is here, it’s just as simple as that.
First and foremost, I’m neither a psychologist, psychiatrist nor a lawyer. I make no pretense that as a divorced dad myself I have all of the answers and my situation was not unique. What I DID realize is that many of the divorced fathers I know didn’t have a place to turn or a person to talk to about the issues they are going to. Other than a lawyer and a therapist, the resources for dealing with the issues of divorce are just not there for men experiencing divorce. Through my own experiences and being friends with other divorced dads I think there are a lot of pitfalls that we fall prey too, me included. There’s nothing more humbling and yet more important than actually failing and learning from the experience.
Humans are meant to live in community, regardless of race or gender. Through strength we can lift each other up and be the people we were meant to be. Divorce is not an easy thing to go through and is hard on both parents and more difficult on children then many people recognize or acknowledge. The one thing all men crave is respect and to feel necessary.
So in a nutshell, this blog is here as a resource for men to share their thoughts and experience an online community with which to grow.
Written by Jason - http://www.DivorcedDadsOnline.com2 Comments on this post
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Ferney said:
I’m not sure I understand how this website works but I have gone through the posts and I really appreciate all you’ve written. I’m in a relationship with a single dad of two children. I’ve never been married before and don’t have children. They have joint custody and in the agreement he has them every weekend because the ex works on the weekends. This means that in a year and a half we have never had a weekend alone. I was really relieved to read your posts and get some sort of validation that the feelings I’ve had throughout this relationship are things that you address here, particularly on your post on dating. I wish there were more resources like these to come to for advice or just read about others’ experiences. Thank you for being one! I have no idea if you welcome any advice or want to hear from the other side, but I want to say this in case it helps someone out there. I had accommodated the schedule completely but it’s worn me. I wonder now if this might be easier for people when both are divorced and have children. For guys who want to hear a girls’ side, we love your kids for the most part — just like you get annoyed with them, we do too. But if you really like a girl, try hard to have quality alone time and interests of your own that don’t all revolve around children. Again, it’s fun to hear about your kids and to experience them, but you have to build the relationship on your own merits and interests. I’m about to bail!! And I just thought something good came out of my efforts. So, I’m just passing this along. Have a great day.
February 9th, 2008 at 10:11 am -
Jason said:
Thanks for leaving your comment! I welcome advice with open arms as it’s important that other readers share their ideas and their thoughts.
I want to say that I completely agree with you, it’s important for two people in a relationship to make time with each other. I’m not sure why this happens but I’ve seen many men, and women, shift from being well-balanced in life, work and home and then after divorce they swing into focusing on one. For a while, I was like that. I traveled for work and focused on my weekends on my daughter. The difference is that I made time on the weekends I didn’t have my daughter to date and go out.
It’s a hard situation, trying to balance it all out. Have you talked to him about this? I mean, really sat him down to tell him that you need alone time?
February 9th, 2008 at 10:38 am